So, with this big personality of mine comes a little drama. And a little over-exaggeration. And a smidge of crazy.
Although, I blame it all on the fact that I am raising a 12 year old girl and 13 year old boy.
THE BOY-
1. I can't understand what the heck he's saying. Mix mumbling with the fact that he won't look me in the eye to speak, and I have to ask him up to 4 times to repeat himself. I have determined from this that he is going to fail at job interviews and wont be able to support a family.
2. My boy is not very lovey. Hugs are like kryptonite to him, and when I text him I love him, he texts me back "k". I have already put him and his (hypothetical) wife in couples therapy because of his inability to be affectionate.
3. He's a slob. I imagine that his mission companion will hate him sorely (and write home about it) and Jordan's whole mission will be a battle of wills over who's towel is on the floor.
THE GIRL-
1. My daughter, who is a talented volleyball player, wants to quit. This burns me up to my very core, being that I was a latch key kid and would have LOVED to have the opportunities she has. I worry that she will quit when things get hard/boring, and will not follow through. That she won't have the benefit of accomplishing HARD things. So, I imagine she doesnt go to BYU like I want her to, quits her freshman year, and works at Walmart where she meets her stocker husband and they ask to live with us. Yeah, thats NOT gonna happen.
It is so HARD to not get all worked up about the decisions they are making! The ugly truth is much of the time I want them to be the people that I WANT THEM TO BE! Isn't that horrible?
I realize that I turned out fine without being a star athlete ( I was successful in cheerleading, but soooo badly wanted to be in softball, more respect). I think its because only now at 35, I am figuring out who I AM, who I want to BE, and I want to save them the work, and just give them all the answers.
And given the fact that I can't have caffine anymore, you can only imagine how much harder raising kids is going to be!
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Oh wow. I LOVED this and laughed so hard. And knowing both your children, your son will some day talk in complete sentences again. I cannot vouch for the slob part. And your daughter will learn to push through hard things that she really loves. And I think you're a completely normal mom.
Fortunately the mumbling is a stage. We are fans of the Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with Johnny Depp so I would often be heard yelling MUMBLER to get him to speak clearer. Either I'm able to interpret now or he is speaking clearer. So, give it a year and see how it goes. I hope K decides to stick with it. It is important to have something you're good at especially as she enters highschool. Good friends only get you so far - if they are all in good activities and you're doing nothing there is just too many bad options. Dang- I'll step off the "activity" soap box now.
I know you know how I feel about some of this;) I agree with Andrea, Kennedy will push through the hard things...that she loves. Sometimes the other things are just not that important in the long run. You are a good mom to worry about them and I think it is very natural to want them to make the choices YOU want them to make. You have good kids. They have been taught to work hard and make good choices. They will....eventually. I see none of your children living at home with you. Well, I guess Drew is still to young and cute for me to think of him being anywhere but home with you:)
You earn an A++ for being an awesome mom!! Who cares about any college grade? You're doing better than you realize in both parenting and college!
I love your blog!! Love your honesty and humour!! You have gained a follower :-) Hang in there!!
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